Wednesday, September 9, 2009

We Lost the Baby

I called my doctors office yesterday about 3:30 to check on my HCG levels. The nurse told me that they normally don't call back about results until the following day. I told her, "Can you please check on this sooner then later? I have been waiting six days instead of the normal 2, due to the holiday weekend and I need to know for good state of mind. I just simply can't wait any longer. I need to know already if this is a viable pregnancy or not. So i can begin to heal and move on." She told me she would leave a message and get back with me. Five minutes later my NP called me to let me know that my numbers did indeed go down, so it does look like i am in the process of miscarrying. She also wanted me to come in right away to see my Doctor because she won't be in tomorrow. So I called Scott and he left work and met me there because i had to take Jackson with me. I didn't want his little ears in that office room with me. I don't know how much he would understand, but I don't want to be answering unnecessary questions from a 2 1/2 year old. This is hard enough as it is.

I knew in my heart that this was going to be the result we would be told. i was hanging on hope, but expecting the worst. My doctor told me that I most likely had a Blighted Ovum and that these were very common. But she is recommending a D&C on me due to the fact that I am still measuring 5 weeks but I am 9 weeks along. So that means that the sack has been passed away for some time now and yet my body isn't passing it on it's own. She said on a positive side as far as my body is concerned is that my uterus is nice and strong. That is why it is holding on so well. Some women will have a weak uterus and even with a viable baby, they could loose it because their body's can't stop bleeding. So when i have a healthy pregnancy it will hold. Which she knows is the truth since I had an absolutely perfect pregnancy with Jackson. I was sent home and told to think about when i would like to have my DandC. She said if i refused one she couldn't make me, but she doesn't encourage me waiting any longer then 2 weeks due to the fear of infection. My body is just taking too long to do what it should have done already 4 weeks ago at least.

This was one thing I really didn't want to do, but I understand her reasoning. I know some women that had to have an emergency D and C a few years ago and it was pretty scary. I don't want to have to go through that either. My doctor also told me that i didn't need to wait any longer to TTC after a D and C like I thought i did. So that is a relief. I am sad, but at the same time i am glad i can just move on and move ahead. One day at a time, we will heal. Knowing is better then waiting. Thank you for all of your prayers and if you wouldn't mind to keep continuing with them to give us a healing heart and also quick healing of my body.

Tuesday, September 8, 2009

Please Keep Us in Your Prayers.

We could really use some faith and your prayers right now. Thursday was our very first doctor's appointment for Baby Kanengeiser. My body looks great, cervix is still closed, everything good except that my Dr. noticed some brown discharge. I have had no bleeding/spotting so this was news to me. They couldn't find a heartbeat, which isn't too suprising because i am still pretty early on (8 weeks 6 days). It isn't common to detect a heartbeat with a doppler until around 11 weeks. So when Dr. O'Neill came in the room, she brought the portable Ultrasound machine in to take a look. This is where we really starting getting nervous because we didn't see anything there either. She told us not to panic because this is a really old machine and not clear at all. But since she found some brown discharge and had a hard time seeing anything on her machine she sent me for a formal ultrasound. The ultrasound showed a sack but nothing inside. It was measuring at 5 weeks (but according to my LMP I should be 9 weeks). So this wold mean I was either not as far along as I thought or the baby stopped growing. Well we have been keeping track of everything since we were TTC. So there is really no way i was this far off. They had me go and get blood work to see if my HCG level will double by Tuesday. But I am pretty much coming to terms with the fact that I may have lost my baby. I am just so very sad. I cried off and on all day Friday, slept hard until 3:30, and then was up with my mind racing. I finally fell back to sleep and now I just feel numb. I hate this waiting. I know they are trying to be hopeful. But if there is no baby, i just want to move on. The worst part to all of this is that I completely FEEL and LOOK pregnant. I have sore boobs, nausea, fatigue, my belly is getting bigger, and until all the exams and tests I had zero spotting.

Since Friday I have had this very light brown discharge for the past three days, just when I wipe. It reminds me of the very end of a period; when it is pretty much gone but still slightly lingering. When I saw the blood a part of me was relieved that if this is ending at least it is happening soon. And then another part is soooooooo sad. And now, three days later, and it is still the same. I still have no better answer then i did a few days ago. I hate this.
I just really need some hope and faith. I went back today for more blood work to see if there is any doubling time. I am praying that my baby was just too tiny to see and is holding on. If I am doubling then i will have another ultrasound and maybe there will be a baby there.

I belong to a pregnancy forum called Pregnancy Weekly. On here I have a Birth Board where all the women are due in the same month. So we can chat, compare notes so to say, and just get some piece of mind since all these women are going through the same thing you are. It is a fantastic tool to have! Well there is a woman on my board that is going through this right now. At 8 weeks she also had an ultrasound and they discovered a sac but also no baby. Well, she was sent for blood work and her numbers did indeed double. The took her for another ultrasound and low and behold there was a tiny baby and a heartbeat! It had a 9-day growth in 7 days time. She had another u/s 6 days later and it was a 10-day growth. It still shows behind but is catching up. Her doctor is positive that the baby will be fully caught up by the second trimester. From what I understand this is more common then most people think.

After hearing her story I am given some hope. I also wholeheartedly believe in the power of prayer. We are prepared for either outcome, but we aren't giving up until we know 100% that there is no chance. Then we can move ahead and try again. The waiting game is the hardest thing I have ever dealt with! All I can ask from all of you right now is to give us lots of prayers and love.

Tuesday, August 18, 2009

The Rumors are all True....

Come April, we will no longer be a family of three!! Yay, there is another baby on the way! We are so very, very excited! I have been trying to hold off posting anything on here until we told as many of you in person ourselves, but if we happened to miss any of you, we are so sorry!

Things are still really early, I am only 6 weeks and 5 days pregnant (I'm not counting already or anything!) But as with Jackson, I see no need to wait- goodness, I don't think it is possible for me to wait! A New Life is much too exciting to keep to one's self. I want to start documenting this pregnancy as much as I did with Jackson because I just love going back and reading my past thoughts and experiences. Plus maybe one day and Jackson and New Baby will want to read about their life while inside Mommy. The longer I wait to tell our news, the more posts I have to catch up on... and goodness knows I have had problems getting the time to post on here on a regular basis as is. I will be better- I swear.

We found out we were pregnant on Tuesday, August 4th. I knew I was going to be testing this morning and I asked Scott the night before if he wanted me to test first thing while he was home or to suprise him later with the news. He told me to wait because if he found out first thing he wouldn't have been able to concentrate at work. So as soon as he left for work, before Jackson even woke up I ran to the bathroom to take my test. And sure enough a tiny little faint line showed up. Yayyayayayayy! But of course, it was faint and I needed to retest, so off to the store we went and bought one more test- just to make sure....sure enough, we got another possitive! Luckily Scott only had to work a half a day, so I didn't have to wait long to tell our news. We're having a baby!

Friday, August 7, 2009

Reflecting on pregnancy....

This is a survery I took about being pregnant and having Jackson. I thought I would share my anwsers!

1. How old were you when your first child was born?
28

2. What month and year was your youngest child born?
February 2007

3. How did you feel when you first found out you were pregnant?
I was incredibly excited! We had decided to start trying because we heard it could take a long time for your first child. But it didn't for us- it worked first try!

4. Who did you tell first?
Scott of course

5. How many pounds did you gain during your first pregnancy?
no one's business. I hate this question more then anything else. And it isn't because I am embarrased by the number. I just don't get why people think it is OK to ask a woman how much she weighs?!

6. What did you crave while you were pregnant?
Meat (not to be confused with beets, Sandy!!)! particularly red meat. I could have eatten it at every meal.

7. Did you find out the gender of your first child? Why or why not?
Yes! We were so excited to know and be able to start calling him by name.

8. Did you have any complications during your pregnancy?
no, thank goodness. We were very blessed with a perfectly healthy pregnancy.

9. How much did your first child weigh?
7lbs 0 oz.

10. Was your first child early, late, or on time?
I was induced on his due date. I will never be induced again, unless I absolutly have too. Ugh.

11. What is the most difficult challenge or health issue that any of your children have faced?
We are also very blessed that we haven't faced any health issues with our son. When he was born he had to stay in the hospital for a week because he was jaundice. But it wasn't terribly serious, just serious enough to need the light treatment. Being a first time mom, at the time I was a mess over it. But if that is the only challenge- I'll take it!

12. What's your favorite part of being a mom?
Everything! I always dreamed that I would be a mom one day. Just like some women know that they are destined to become a doctor, lawer or other business woman- I knew I was to be a mother. Of course it has it struggles and frustrations at times, but it is all worth it.

13. Do you think it's easier to be a mom or a dad?
they are both the two hardest jobs in the world.

14. What is the best piece of advice you could give to someone who is about to have their first child?
I love my sisters answer- take every single moment in because they change so very, very fast. It is so true!

15. Did you always think you'd have kids?
yes! See answer # 12

16. What's been the biggest surprise about motherhood?
how complete it has made my life. Scott and I sit around now and it never fails but one of us will always say- what in the world did we do with ourselves before having Jackson?! Also, I am amazed at how much love I could possibly feel for my son. I thought I had loved with my whole heart before- but nothing compaires to a mothers love for her child.

17. Are there things you miss about life before kids?
I loved being able to sleep in when I wanted and doing "nothing" when we felt like it. But oh what trivial things these are!

18. How many children do you have?
1 little boy, Jackson

19. Do you plan to have any more children?
definately!

20. Who's the mom that you admire most?
my mom! She is the most amazing woman I know.

Monday, July 6, 2009

Happy Birthday Daddy!

Happy Birthday Daddy! We love you more then anything else in the whole wide world! We hope you have a wonderful day full of fun (aside from that work part- get out of there as fast as you can!!) We thank God every day that you were brought into this world. Because without you, our amazing Jackson wouldn't be here and I wouldn't be the woman I am today. You bring out the best in both of us.


This morning Jackson and I came up with a list of some of our favorite things about Daddy. Here they are! We love how much of a hard worker you are. You get a wonderful idea in your head, and you don't stop until it is just-so. We love how much fun you are! You know just the perfect thing to say to bring a smile to our face and a huge laugh right from our bellys. You are perfect at "being silly on the couch"- Little Man asks for it daily! We love your devotion to your family and the love that so easily pours from your heart. Never a day goes by where we wonder how loved we are. And one just from your wife- I love how you are the perfect other half of me. Your heart knows how to speak to mine. Watching you be the head of this household, the father of our Jackson, and the husband any woman would be lucky to have (but too bad for them- you are all mine!) makes my heart grow bigger every day. Happy birthday my love!

Friday, June 26, 2009

I blame it on the beautiful weather....


Again here I am apologizing for taking so very, very long to post now journal updates!  I am sorry!!!  Although this is our third summer here, this seems like the first year of really enjoying our wonderful yard!  This year we have decided is going to be the Summer of Yard Improvements.  We want to love our house and yard, and take full advantage of the space we have.

It is the end of June and already I am so excited and impressed with what we have already accomplished!  Since the Spring, we have built a privacy fence which now gives us a cute little patio; we have cleared beds and layed mulch; we have expanded my herb garden once again and built up the wall surrounding it; and the biggest project has to be the amazing swingset that Scott, my dad, Don and Neil built. 


There is still much we want to do, and I am sure every year something new will come up.  But this is fun work and one that pays off right away.  You can actually SEE where your sweat, money and hard work went to. Awesome.



I need to get running to the grocery store for the company we are having tonight.  Entertaining in our new yard of course!  But please check back for lots of new updates and pictues (OBX 2009 vacation included!)

Thursday, April 30, 2009

Swings and Things

This summer will mark our third year in our sweet little home. The first summer I was quite pregnant, so doing much yard work wasn't really something I was too interrested in.  So many things waited.  Last year, after assessing the trees, bushes and a heck of a lot of weeds, Scott went to work big time clearing out much of the mess that was the back of our yard.  We let winter do it's job and clear out the rest.  Now it is spring again, and we are in full swing to get our yard a place we really want to spend time in.  Jackson is ALL boy, hunting for bugs, collecting sticks and lining up rocks are amongst his favorite outdoor past times.  But we realized very quickly now that he is full on the move, that this kid has A LOT of energy and needs more ways of buring it off!  So this month we are building a swingset for our Little Man and a picninc table for us!  Right now, I don't know who is more excited, me or Jackson.  As a kid I was the swinging champion (Bonnie many try and argue this fact that she was indeed that, but don't listen to her...haha).  I can't wait to have a place to play- don't get me wrong, collecting stuff is cool and all.  It will just fun to have something else to do as well!  Construction starts on May 16th, so expect pictures to follow!  Yay!

Tuesday, April 21, 2009

Keeping the Faith

Yes, I know... I have been a very bad Mommy Blogger. It has been absolutely ages since I wrote on here last. And honestly I have no real good reason for it except that we have just been super busy having fun! After what has felt like the longest winter ever, we have been taking full advantage of spring! For Jackson's birthday he received an awesome pair of monster mud boots from the Stenger's, and spring is a perfect time of year to try them out. He loves them so much it is almost difficult to get him outside without them. But that is fine with me- throw on some play jeans and mud boots and we are ready for anything! ..more about these boots in a minute....

My friend Hannah, that I spoke of a while back, has finally moved back here to Ohio with her family like we have been wishing for. Her husband, Tim's job got transferred back here, and I can't say enough how happy we all are about it! Her friendship is like a breath of fresh air for me and her son TJ has been so wonderful for Jackson. They are such sweet little friends now!

For a long time I have wanted to do more with my faith. It has felt like something was missing, although I couldn't put a finger on what it was. Hannah belongs to a mother's group through her church called MUMs (Mom's Uplifting Mom's). She invited me to go along with her, and after just the first visit I knew that this was the thing I was missing. As it turns out it was the congregating with other young women, like me. Unfortunately for Jackson these first few meetings were pretty hard on him. As most of you know, Jackson is quite the Mommy's boy. He loves me to pieces and has a very difficult time with me leaving him anywhere that I won't be. The first two MUMS groups they had to come get me after about 30 minutes because he just wouldn't calm down for them. This was crushing to me because I knew how much my heart needed this devotional time . So when Hannah asked if I wanted to try going to the weekly Mom's Bible Study, I jumped at the chance. I knew right away that having to go a whole month before trying out the nursery was just too much time for him. This way, if it was weekly he would get used to it and hopefully- I am keeping the faith that eventually it might not be too terrible for him. The following week I prayed and prayed.... Please God, for me and for Jackson, please make this easy for him...please let him make it through the whole study. And guess what. He did it! There was a wonderful woman there when we were checking in that took him under her wing and held him until he was ready for play (about 15 minutes). The following week she did it again, and guess what he calmed down after 5 minutes! Week three our favorite woman wasn't there. But another sweet girl guided him away from me and soothed him for, get this, 30 seconds! That was all it took! This last week it was MUMs again, which up until now I haven't really been able to participate in. At check in, Jackson got a little tearful, but another sweet girl guided him over to the trucks and before I even left the room he was playing and having fun!! Way to go little man!!! Now once a week Jackson gets to play with other children, and I get a little RandR for my heart and soul. It is perfect. And through all this, Jackson is really getting a lovely friendship with Hannah's son, TJ. It is so fun to see the two little boys play together- 100% Boy through and through!

Now back to the Boots.... in our backyard we have this little creek that runs along the back of our property. It is just this little thing, probably no more then 6 inches at its deepest. Which makes it the perfect place to stomp around, in you guessed it, mud Boots! Growing up, some of my strongest childhood memories were of me playing in the woods behind my parents’ house. Stomping around in the water and coming home completely filthy equaled the perfect summer day. The moment I saw our little creek I knew I wanted Jackson to have those same experiences. After just the first time I knew we had to call TJ and Miss Hannah to join us. I was hoping that they would love it as much as we do! So this past Friday they came over, boots in hand, and to the water we headed. Oh my goodness - it was heaven watching these little guys! They had more fun then they knew what to do with. Stomping in the water, collecting rocks, skipping stones (okay, more like splashing with rocks), and scooping sand in their buckets- by the end of the afternoon these guys were completely filthy but 100% happy. As were Hannah and myself; it was a gorgeous morning and it just felt so good sitting in the sun listening to the happy squeals from our little men. It was truly a perfect day.

I promise I will be better with keeping up with this website! I have lots more things to talk about and already this post is getting super long. So check back for more stories throughout the week! I have uploaded a bunch of new photo albums today and updated his growth chart as well. So thank you for your patients- but we are finally BACK!

Friday, March 6, 2009

Jackson went pee-pee in the potty!!


Yayayayay! So officially Potty Training has begun! Good job little man, we are so proud of you!

I will tell you the whole story tomorrow. But I wanted to get this down just incase the week got away from me!

Tuesday, February 24, 2009

Cars "All Line Up" Mommy!


This month I have really noticed such a change in Jackson. He is becoming much more attentive to detail, and is starting to come up with his own make believe games. Toys do more then just move from one place to the next. Now he actually plays with them. He just loves driving his "baby cars" as he calls them (matchbox cars) around his road carpet, accross the wood floor, up the wall, just about everywhere! But I have noticed that he is very much like his Auntie Bon Bon was when she was a kid. To her, the setting up of a game was almost more fun then the actual playing of it. His newest favorite game is getting all his "papa trucks" out and making them "all line up". He puts every car side by side to the next one until they are in a nice long line. He never puts them nose to nose, always side by side. And they have to be touching. He will work so vey hard at this and never wants help. After he gets them just so he comes running for me calling "Mommy come look!". Jackson cars all line up". He is so, so proud of himself, it is the cutest thing. I them tell him how awesome they all look and then he gives me a high five. I love it!

The picture you see is from this morning. I was checking my email in the office while he was very busy in his bedroom playing with his blocks and trucks. After a few minutes he comes running in the room, "Mommy come look! Jackson build house!" So the picture is of his awesome line up job and also Jackson's very first "house" he built all by himself with blocks- without any help or incouragement. He was so proud, and so was I!

Friday, February 20, 2009

Happy 2nd Birthday Jackson!!!!


How can it possibly be, that my little man, Jackson is already 2 years old?!  I can't believe it!  When other parents would tell me to take everything in, take lots of pictures and to document as much as possible because a childs life goes by so fast, I didn't believe them.  Not until having a child of my own.  These two years have been the fastest EVER!  I now seem to measure time, not on my own experiences- but in the life and accomplishments of Jackson.  At this rate he will be learning to drive in no time!  OK, I have to stop thinking that far ahead.  I'm not even ready for kindergarden, let alone driving school!

Well Happy Birthday My Little Man!  Out Nature Explorer, Truck and Tractor Lover, Collector of Balls, and all around lover of life.  Thank you for choosing us to be your parents and letting us enjoy every single day because you are in it.  I love you with all my heart!!!

Friday, February 13, 2009

Cooking School with Loretta Paganini


OK, Ok... so this is an incredibly old post.  But it is one I have been meaning to write about but needed to get the pictures off my camera first.

Back in October, Sandy took me to my very first Hand's On cooking class at Loretta Paganini's School of Cooking.  Oh my goodness it was so much fun!!!  I loved it so much.  I could very easily see myself gong back to school one day to become a chef- very cool.  The class we were taking was A Day in the Kitchen: Pizza, Focaccia & Calzone.  This was a 4 hour class where we learned how to do everything, from making homemade dough (with and without yeast) and using it then to create a huge variety of yummy food.

Our full menu was:
  • Pizza Margherita with Fresh Mozzarella, Tomato and Basil
  • White Cheese Pizza
  • Baker's Articoke & Roasted Red Pepper Pizza
  • Rosemary Focaccia
  • Focaccia di Recco
  • Piedine Stuffed with Buffalo Mozzarella, Arugula & Prosciutto
  • Prosciutto & Mozzarella Stuffed Calzone
  • Pepperoni Rolls
  • Nodini
  • Antipasti Salad with Balsamic Vinaigrette
  • Streghe with Caponata Salad
  • Sticky Buns and Steaming Cappuccino
We made pretty much everything ourself.  And what we didn't completely make we assisted Loretta Paganini with.  One of the weirdest things we did in this class though was create a Biga.  A Biga is an Italian Starter that you make with yeast, flour and water.  It is added to your dough to make the rising process go faster, therefore making it possible to make your breads, doughs, etc. faster.  The funniest thing about this is that after the class was over Loretta handed out jars for us to take our Biga home with us.  This wasn't the weird part.  The weird part is that she told us we had to feed it every 3 days or it will die.  And how you feed it isn't so important; a pinch of salt one day, a spoonfull of flour next time.  You know, whatever.  Sandy and I just looked at eachother, like... "Oh boy, here we go..."  Once we got home, for the next two weeks we would email and call eachother to compaire notes on the life of our Bigas.  Things were going pretty good and then at just about the same time they both died.  R.I.P Biga.  Don't feel bad for us though, it was inevitable.  I was hopeful at first about the project of keeping it alive.  But that tired very quickly.  It was fun while it lasted!

This was hands down one of the most fun days I have had.  It was so great being able to share this experience with Sandy.  She a veteran to Cooking School and she knew that I would love this and she was right!  Everything we made was so delicious.  By the time class was over we were all so stuffed.  But boy it was worth it!  Plus whatever we didn't eat in class we got to take home with us, so Scott and Don were excited with our class too!  Sandy, thank you so much for taking me along!

For my birthday this year, Sandy and Don got me a gift certificate to go to another one of her classes and also a cookbook of Loretta's so I can get it signed myself when I go this time.  I am so excited!  Thank you, thank you!  Receiving this gift is actually what reminded me that I never did get my first class posted online here. Please go take a look at the pictures from our day.  They are located in My Family Albums.  There are some great ones in there!

Friday, January 9, 2009

Mommy, I Climb!


Oh Boy, so not ready for this!  So yesterday after Jackson decided to throw all of his toys all around the living room, after being told not to (multiple times) he got put in Time Out.  Time Out consists of Jackson being told what he did wrong and then being put into his crib for 1 minute with the door closed.  When 1 mintue is up we go back into his room, talk about what it was that was "naughty", we hug and kiss, he says he is sorry and it is done.  This is usually just the right amount of time alone that it will curb whatever it is that he was doing that was naughty and he will play nice again.  Well about 35 seconds into Time Out, I hear a loud thud and then crying.  I open up Jackson's door and what do I find directly on the other side- Jackson.  Yep, he climbed out of bed.  He isn't even 2 yet!  I scooped him up in my arms to comfort him, because he was indeed shocked at his accomplishment.

I asked him how in the world he got out of bed, which then brought huge smiles inbetween the sobs, he points to his crib and said "Mommy, I climb."

"I see that", I told him.

Friday, January 2, 2009

Happy New Year Everyone!


Well the holidays are finally over and it is time to begin a new year.  2009 is going to be a good one- I can feel it.

Christmas was so, so much fun this year.  Jackson really got into it.  Opening presents was definately the high point for him, for sure!  It was also the year of trains, trucks and tractors.  This kid is in heaven!  His car collection has tripled, and then some!  Everyday this is his most favorite game, and keeps him happy and entertained forever!  So thank you to everyone for making all of his dreams come true this Christmas.  We have a very happy little boy in this house.

I have so much more to share but need to get us all ready for one last Christmas party with my Uncle Allen and Aunt Joanne.  So check back later.


Happy New Year!